Quotes to help cope with BPD partners

Here are some quotes that I find useful for me to deal with my BPD spouse and difficult people.

"If I cannot change the world, I can change the way I look at it."
I believe this is a saying from Confucius. There are many things we cannot change in this world because everyone thinks differently and perceives the world differently from us. This is especially so with a BPD person. You can fight all you want, but it's a losing battle. I have learnt not to go the whole hog with my BPD partner to push a point. I try and if it doesn't work, I accept it and let it go. I try not to put a judgment on it and just work around it.

However I try more with my children as they have more capacity to learn and accept my point of views. I dont really try very hard with my BPD anymore... It's not worth the anxieties on both sides.

"I cannot change the wind, but I can adjust my sails"
A similar quote to the one above by Anthony Robbins. Now when I go around the house and see all the lights and fans switched on as my BPD spouse left them on, I just switch them off and not get upset about it. It's more productive and harmonious this way.

"You should be grateful to the most difficult people in your life. They can teach you the most about life and yourself."

A devout buddhist friend of mine related this to me about how to look at difficult people in my life (not my BPD partner). I may not agree entirely with this but I suppose this is a better way to look at life with BPDs than just hating them.